I believe it is possible to be compassionate and caring to myself and others at the same time. It is a dynamic interplay, and with patience and awareness, it can become a liberating habit.
When we intend to connect in a way that leads to everyone’s needs being met, our ability for empathy and understanding of self and others develops.
As I have said before, I don’t think we are responsible for fixing others or meeting other’s needs, but that does not mean that we don’t consider the needs of others. For me, compassion is about consideration, understanding and connection.
Being there for someone, in the present moment and trying to understand what they are experiencing, is a compassionate act.
People crave attention and acceptance. Most people do not want you to give advice or take action on their behalf. What they really want to is for you to really see them and really hear them.
You don’t have to do anything other than be truly interested, open and available. You don’t have to give up your own needs. You just have to be there.