I was recently reading a book on “Positivity” by Barbara Fredrickson. In it she claims that no matter where we are, if we take a moment to ask ourselves questions like, “What’s right about my current circumstances?” or “What makes me lucky to be here?” we can light our inner glow of gratitude. I tend to agree with her. Powerful questions can point us in a different direction and can change our point of view and attitude.
I was socialized in either/or, black and white thinking. I was also encouraged to debate in order to make my case and prove my point of view. This socialization is still hard for me to shake. I still find myself in debate mode, rather than dialogue or conversation mode, even when I am trying not to be.
In her book Spinning Threads of Radical Aliveness, Miki Kashtan writes, “I want our needs, desires, emotions, imagination, intuition and faith to be embraced as a route towards changing relations with self, others and nature.” She is “not advocating completely unrestrained expressions of emotions”, instead she believes that “reason is not comprehensive enough on its own to serve as a foundation for human socialization, and that the bias in its favour is at best problematic and at worst dangerous”.
As a registered counsellor and registered teacher with a warm and flexible style, I can help you examine where you are, decide where you want to go, and take action to move towards that destination.
I have a background in performing, writing, and coaching, (in personal development, communication and the creative industries) as well as counselling, and have worked with individuals, couples, families, community groups, government organisations and businesses. I can help you
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Some of us are very fortunate to have the opportunity to be in close contact with people from many cultures and walks of life. Being exposed to different languages, accents, clothes, food, customs, ideas and spiritual perspectives, gives us the opportunity to broaden our horizons and opens up the possibility of new ways of thinking, doing and being.
I found this quote somewhere and it appeals to me for many reasons. I am afraid I do not know who wrote it, so thankyou to who ever you are.
“Human beings are not meant to be passive or compliant: they are designed to be active and engaged. The most fulfilling and satisfying experiences in our lives are not when we are gaining the trappings of so called success by buying bigger and better toys, but when we are listening to our inner yearnings and our deep knowings, and then acting upon that by giving something of ourselves and doing something that matters, doing it well, and doing it in the service of a cause larger than ourselves.”
When a triggering event occurs in our life we have many ways in which we can respond, but we regularly forget this and claim that an event or a circumstance caused our reaction.
When we claim that someone has made us angry or made us sad, we have overlooked the fact that people react in different ways, depending on the interpretation and significance that they place on situations and events.